I was wondering where all of these people were coming from on my stat counter today...
Now I know thanks to a nice woman who just emailed me and informed me.
Some person out there with a blog called People I Want to Punch in the Throat (the name should say it all---classy) decided to degrade Amelia's sweet 1st Marie Antoinette birthday party on her blog...
Take a look and see for yourself!
She obviously doesn't know anything about me, and is too ignorant to read my blog before she decides to share my content and image (which was removed upon my request, thankfully), mind you, with the rest of the world!!!
I'm not sure how she found me...Probably some random search on Pinterest to fill her post with content.
Any thoughts???
42 comments:
My thoughts are that SOME PEOPLE need a life of their own! What is WRONG with people and who is ANYONE to judge what someone else does for their child's birthday? GET OVER IT ALREADY! If she wants to do a donkey with a tail hanging off its butt so be it...but don't be knocking someone who wants a pretty party instead. How VERY judgemental! Hugs- Diana
You're offended, but you linked to it! Priceless!
Anonymous- It's obvious who you are!!!
i hate to say it but when you post a blog it is public and open to both praise and ridicule. yes, there are some of us that find stuff like this over the top.
There were NO images of your party on her blog either BTW...but seriously...your daughter will never remember nor will she think that this party was awesome when she is old enough to understand!! Man I wish I had that much time on my hands!!
Yes, thank you for removing the image as I requested.
I’ve seen a lot of over the top birthday parties on blogs everywhere and I often wonder if I’m the only one who thinks they are too indulgent?!?! I think we’re raising today’s children to be self centered and spoiled! Giving children too much creates a sense of entitlement! It’s been my experience that the more children have the less they appreciate it.
I believe that these moms truly love their children; they just don’t see the big picture. I also don’t think anyone thinks of the environmental impact that an over indulgent lifestyle creates. Our planet cannot sustain this constant need for bigger better more. Think of the amount of trash that parties like these or Christmas generates.
Whatever happened to simple pleasures? What’s wrong with asking a child what their favorite meal is, what kind of cake they would like and having a family dinner celebration? Or what’s wrong with a family trip to the zoo to celebrate? I’m willing to bet these kids would enjoy the time spent together much more than the hectic preparations these big birthday bashes create!
On a final note, when I was a child, my family didn't have a lot of money, but I never knew it. I remember one Christmas that stands out when my sister and I got a doll house that my dad made and my mother decorated. She made curtains for the windows and little bedspreads for the bed. We only got that one gift, but I thought it was amazing!
It's sad that today's children get so many presents at Christmas that they don't even want to open them all! Then they're upset because they didn't get one of the things on their list! Let's stop the madness!
I don't blame you for being angry. Some people have absolutely no scruples these days. I don't see what it should matter to her or to anyone else what kind of party you throw for your daughter. You have a wonderful talent in being able to organize beautiful parties keep it up! I don't see how it is indulgent when everything was made with love. Indulgence is giving a child things that they have no use for... Things that most adults have no use for... things that are given them just for the sake of the giving. Even if Amelia will not remember her 1st at least her mother will and nobody has more right to memories than a mother. This may be a public blog but using photos that do not belong to you... even for a little while isn't right... that photo had the blog name on it.
You created beauty and delight and positive energy... and so what if it's just as much fun for the mom as it is for the child. It should be! This person is creating negative, cynical, dark energy, and being very critical and judgmental. I had no idea there were people out there who created blogs just to make fun of other blogs or criticize someone. Kinda reminds me of those nutcases that go and protest at funerals. Either way, she has a right and the freedom to express her opinion, but it does just seem mean spirited.
I've found that usually people who are like that, are just really insecure and jealous and egocentric.
Cindy
I hate that this happened to you. I guess you can't get away from idiots...even on blogger. Someone who obviously has WAY too much time on their hands. Some people are just evil!!!
Bonjour! It's me, Jen. I know that you think I'm these anonymous posters, but I'm not. I don't post anonymously. I'm not evil, I just call it like I see it. And the way I see it is: If you put stuff out there, you're bound to find one or two people who don't care for what you do. I found your party on an over top party blog where THEY posted your pic. It's down now though...unless you give me permission to use it for my Babble.com post on this topic tomorrow...My readers aren't ogres either, I guarantee you'll gain a follower or two today, a lot of over achievers with senses of humor read my blog. Motherhood is hard enough, relax and have a glass of wine and chuckle at your self.
Hello, one of Jen's ogre followers here. I follow Jen because she makes me laugh. I saw her blog posted today and read it. I saw your party on the stylish parties blog. Even though all of those parties make me tired just looking at them, they are absolutely beautiful and I admire any mom that has that type of motivation and energy. I follow Jen because she makes me laugh and not feel bad when I serve cereal for dinner or forget to move that horrid Christmas elf at Christmas time. Even so, you have a new follower as well. Your blog is beautiful to look at. I admire you both for different reasons.
Hi Mandy, you gave Amelia a beautiful birthday party and made many wonderful memories, don't let people like that spoil any of that for you. It's you business what you do for your child's birthday.
Hugs~~~ Daphne
That is one of the things that scares me the most about blogland and the internet... once you put it out there - you never know what people are going to do with it. I have seen my DIY videos from YOUTUBE on MANY sites (without giving credit to me) That infuriates me to no end!
Do we have any kind of recourse?
I am so sorry that something this distasteful ever happened to such a beautiful young lady's beautiful event. My heart cries for you. But please don't let ignorant unknown people ruin any of the memories or efforts that you you have with your daughter. You know that they are speaking without knowing anything and none of that should be taken to heart - Jalon
Get over yourself girl! That blog post was HILarious! Try to be a good sport.
Hi Mandy, firstly what a shame that person abused your content. I popped over to the blog and it's negative tone and foul language is reminicent of a school yard bully who has self esteem issues and clearly no imagination of their own to spend time dogging on other peoples blogs. I guess everyone has a right to their own opinion- they could have had a discussion on the same topic without using real examples/pics. I think we can over indulge our kids or our own loves when probably our kids would be just as happy with special time over a meal with family and friends- that said as my daughter ruby got to about 5 we have had a few dress up parties and I have endeavoured to decorate using a budget and making the food myself and keeping it child oriented. It does create memories and as a photographer I love styling to photograph the joys etc. My son Curtis has just started school and hasn't really had a theme party. We have gone to a park several years running, the kids all bring bikes/balls etc and I bring food thats very easy and portable as well as cupcakes for the b'day cake. This has been very succesful and fun for the kids. However this year when he turns six I would love to do a Circus party theme for him- he may not want that then I'll change the theme- but if he does I'll have heaps of fun planning it, setting it up, making food and games that are fun for kids and ultimately photographing the kids having fun! What's wrong with that? Nothing I say as long as we don't make it that we have to do that every year. Kids do seem to expect a lot more today and I don't want mine to become like that. Back to how you may feel? Angry, hurt and abused? I imagine. A very wise Pastor from an extremely large church here in Australia is constantly under criticsm from the media and the like had this to say at a mens conference- I don't spend time or energy reading or following what people say about me- I would go mad if I did. Instead spend time meditating on Gods word we can go a lot further in life with His words than those of the foolish. Proverbs is a great place to read what God thinks of foolish people who slander others. I love your beauty and creativity Mandy, God has made you that way- it's your gifting- What a blessing you must be in your home/family/friends as well as blessing others through your blog- it's bigger than you think. The tone of your blog is full of beauty and positivity. Try not to worry too much. xxCorrina.
I'm so sorry. Your blog is always lovely, and it's quite obvious to those of us who follow that you're a committed and wise mommy. Process and heal. Don't stuff it. There's too much ugliness in the world. Thank you for beauty.
Mandy,
Your beautiful party put together with nothing but love for your daughter inspired me. Clearly the comments made by "Anonymous" are ignorant. Knowing who you are as a person and more importantly as a mother, I know this is true. It was tasteful, beautiful, and will be a special memory for your family. Please don't take these peoples nasty words to heart. It's a shame when people feel the need to belittle somebody else on the internet. While, yes, when posting to a blog it does become public, it doesn't mean that people should be rude and disrespectful of your content. And the gibberish about Christmas presents, etc, this person clearly does not know how humble you are or have any sense of your beautiful character or mothering skills. It's amazing to me that people would attack another blogger without knowing anything about them. If they were readers of your blog they would know you did not hire a party planner and have caviar served on silver trays, rather that you lovingly made the special touches that made the party so beautiful. The comments about the dress made my skin crawl, did they even read the posts to which they were referring?
Sorry to rant, I just do not like this negativity and the bully tactics that people waste so much time and energy on, it's sad...and pathetic.
Hugs to you My Friend,
xoxo
Judy
PS Perhaps disabling Anon comments for a bit would be helpful?
My thoughts are that she read your blog, as anyone is free to do, and was appalled by the way you used your daughter's birthday as an excuse to dress her in uncomfortable clothes (that hat!) and thinks it sets up unrealistic-and frankly unhealthy-expectations of mothers and birthday parties everywhere. And to top it off Marie Antoinette??? She was known to be promiscuous and had her head chopped off! That's just bizarre. I'm sure you had good intentions but when you blog you have to expect that people will have opinions and some of them you won't like one bit.
Hi!
I saw your blog because of the People I want to Punch post. I find her writing really funny. Sometimes a bit caustic and I feel bad that you are upset by it. I am sure that I would feel the same way.
I also blog, write, paint, etc and people take your stuff, they claim your words and ideas as their own. Which I think is far worse, but at the end of the day - they are the losers in that situation because you can always make more. She didn't do that. She didn't use your images. She was merely snide about what you put out there for the world to see.
Again, I am sure I would feel the same way that you do. But maybe you need to look at it from a distance and realize that you were successful in creating something that wowed.
As a side note, I hosted 30 people for my daughter's 1st bday a couple of years ago. Her dress was probably pretty itchy with all the chiffon and satin. I don't care that she got cake all over it. It was fabulous.
I am likely more similar to you than Jen. I simply think she's funny. At the end of the day, I'd turn toward your blog if I was looking to make something.
best,
Sammy
My thoughts are that you created 'a thing of beauty' for sweet Amelia's 1st birthday and that is a timeless expression of love from a Mother to her Daughter............
" A thing of beauty is a joy for ever:
Its loveliness increases; it will never
Pass into nothingness; but still will keep
A bower quiet for us, and a sleep
Full of sweet dreams, and health, and quiet breathing."
By: John Keats
Much love to you x
Everyone has their own opinion but I know which one I would want for my Mother....B;)
Pure evil! Who would even think of a title like that unless they were severely disturbed? I guess some people can't be happy for the life they have and want to destroy the beauty and happiness they come across. It's so sad, let's pray that he or she snaps out of it before they snap at some randomly beautiful moment!
I would rather be an overachiever (like you) than a bitter underachiever trying to be funny about my lack of achievment and attempthing to degrade others in the process. Don't let this negativity get to you. It was a beautiful and thoughtful party and your blog is beautiful and inspiring! Chin up!
Mandy,
First of all, you have a beautiful blog. Secondly, the birthday party you gave your daughter was from a mother's heart overflowing with love. If someone else thinks that is over the top, so what! Let them raise their children and you raise yours. I know from reading your blog you know what is truly important. Thirdly, do not give these naysayers anymore attention. Keep living a beautiful life!
So many have commented that they think she is 'funny'. The fact that they think her vulgar language and hateful comments are funny speaks volumes about them and, sorry to say, our detoriatng society in general. What happened to respect for others? As for moi, I appreciate the creativity and beauty of your blog. Because of your enormous talent many of us are inspired to share a bit of our own creativity with others. The time and work it takes to produce such beautiful fun is to be admired not ridiculed.
Ignore her. Bitter and twisted opinionated people that claim to be witty but are mere foul mouthed bullies are easily dismissed and forgotten.
The world can be an ugly place, but I choose to take my inspiration from someone like you who adds beauty and grace to every thing she does. It was a lovely birthday party!
Here's the bad news--it's an imperfect world...there will always be 'JOY SUCKERS,'--the people who are mean, and sometimes crude; then 'hide' it in what they may call sarcasm. They don't stop-because they get support and attention from other 'joy suckers'!
Here's the good news--
I love the fun, imagination and beauty your bring to your blog! I keep reading because I enjoy it.
So what if you gave a birthday which seemed over the top (to some)? I did those things for my daughter when she was little, and she's turned out to be a responsible, well-adjusted adult. We didn't have fancy parties forever--but I had a lot of fun planning them, and surprising her.
Keep on living and sharing your gift. I don't live the same way you do, my life is crazy-frantic: I work two jobs, volunteer, work-out, craft and quilt!, but coming to visit you gives me a little chance to take a break and BREATHE.
I appreciate your art, and I LOVE your results. Keep it up! Hugs and Blessings to YOU!
Well, I really could go on and on, however, I'll attempt to keep it brief. Someone much wiser than I, my 108 year old Nanny, once said that people who use the "F" word are simpletons, too ignorant to seek out other words to express themselves. I would NEVER, EVER allow someone to take away the joy you have in mothering. Although she has a right to express her opinion, it could've been done in a less hurtful, malicious, way. Why the need to center someone out? Cyber-bullying...plain and simple! Go ahead and fill your boots...make a broad opinion-based statement and leave it at that!Just know that what makes you happy may make others jealous. The green-eyed monster is a nasty thing. So sad, so insecure, so hurtful. Much love, Lisa
Your sweet little girl is so lucky to have you for a mommy. She is beautiful, happy and healthy. Someday she will share the love and care that you have given to her with her own family. What a legacy you and your husband are creating. This world needs that kind of love.
Hugs!
Nancy
WoW!That is EXACTLY the type of person i imagine "occupying" Wall Street!
When a person uses that much language and makes a hobby out of bashing other people they clearly has some issues! I feel sorry for her kid... even though i have no qualms about shopping at some of "the finer dollar stores" myself on occasion and i would LOVE to be able to throw parties like you do! It's all about finding inspiration wherever you can and running with it and that's why i enjoy reading your blog so much!!
I swear, maybe your "Anon" and mine are long lost cousins... or heaven forbid the same person. (Mine dogged my son over liking classical music and sounds FREAKISHLY like yours.)
I love how people think they know all about you just cause they read your blog. As if some creative idea you came up with (your daughters party) is some microcosm of your parenting! AND that party WAS NOT over the top. YOU didn't dress up like Marie Antoinette for crying out loud. I recall a modest table outside right,? a homemade hat, creative lamp... (its been a few years sorry) but for goodness sake - if Anon wants to see over the top she should move to Chicago. You didn't rent a HALL !!!
I swear, this sounds like the same Anon. I mean, why READ these blogs if she doesn't like the way you do things. And I'm sorry... "punch in the throat" -- really? What are you, a twelve year old video gamer? Who talks like that?
But let's get back to the point - Anon has made some stupid assumption about you over a BLOG POST! IF she had read any of your more substantive posts on the subject of motherhood she would have a bigger pool from which to draw her opinions. She would KNOW that you talk about how hard your hubby works so you can stay home, she would KNOW that you do things on a shoe string and still can make them beautiful.
Bottom line - she needs to un-bunch her panties and get a life.
Stop trolling blogs if you don't like them.
Geeesh.
And good for you for calling her out.
I am biding my time on that one.
K - sorry, well, no I am not, but clearly I thought Anon was the "Punch in the Face" person...
Two different people... lovely.
And, I never fancied you to be uptight.
Who wouldn't be ticked?
Ah, I see. . . Because I find Jen's blog humorous "veuvemcd" has deemed me to be party to the deterioration of society. Or at least, in her words it speaks volumes about me.
Doesn't that strike you as silly? I can tell you that it informs you very little about me as a person. My heavens, I feel that my choice in toothpaste or breakfast cereal reflects far more deeply.
Or perhaps, that I would take the time to look a little deeper, make a judgment for myself and write a kindly comment on your blog, might just speak a bit more loudly.
best,
Sammy
all that to say, it was a well worded insult but unnecessary. I'm not personally upset but, just because the language is prettier doesn't make it any better.
Sammy-
I don't think what veuvemcd was silly at all; I think that she made a really good point.
You find her well-worded insult unneccessary, while I find Jen's entire blog (which is full of vulgar insults which happened to openly target me and my entire family) unneccesary. I find her entire operation corrupted. You see, she merely found pictures of my daughter's birthday party, and made a huge assumption based on the looks of a few photographs that I over-indulge my daughter and spoil her to no end. If she didn't think that, she wouldn't have chosen my party out of the thousands and thousands of parties on the Internet as one of her three examples. (If she had just read a few things about me or even as little as my profile, she would have seen that my family is, in fact, the contrary. We are very conservative with the little money we have and very resourceful. And we definitely do not over-indulge or spoil our dauther.) So she basically took a few photos completely out of context, exploited my daughter by plastering her picture on her blog, and totally misrepresented me. I do not find that humorous at all.
From reading the comments, you seem to be the exception rather than the rule in your behavior and that is evident in your word choice and how you talk to and about people. Which leads me to say, you are too good to regularly follow a blog that bullies people and degrades others. To make a regular habit of reading those kinds of words and to be influenced by that kind of mindset seems like a very negative way to spend those precious hours in your day.
Mandy
Hi Mandy,
Il faut ignorer les personnes qui polluent les blogs!
J'en ai eu un moi aussi!
Bon courage!
Have a good evening!
I found your blog through hers, and I greatly prefer yours! Can't tell you how many times her readers have "punched" me in the throat.
Dearest Mandy!
1st,
I want to tell you, I'm SO SORRY someone has used you, your motherhood, your beauty, your creativity, your Angles first birthday party as an example of anything but Love.
2ndly,
Amelia WILL remember that birthday, always!
3rdly,
You are right, someone just doesn't know you. And how dare her!
4thly,
There are many different worlds in blogging. Not all are sewed with stitches from the heart and soul. Many use blogs for venting negativity, because that is the world they live in.
5thly,
As my Mom always tells me, "bless her honey, she doesn't know any better".
Oh Mandy, don't let this bother you for one second.
Love love love you!
Janet
XOXO
Rude and vulgar people will always be out there, unfortunately. I'm very sorry this has happened to you.
People blog for different reasons, but just because someone has a different approach to life than you do, doesn't mean it's OK to ridicule and demean them.
I think you deserve an apology.
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